Good morning everyone! Thanks for your words of support and encouragement, and for your prayers. They are much needed and much appreciated at this time.

I've decided that I'm going to take a hard-line stance at the C session today, shake up the fence a bit. It doesn't seem like my "gentle" support of my W is producing the desired effects. I'll let her take the lead at first and see what she has to say. If it seems like we're just wasting our time, I'll steer the direction. I'm gonna let her know that I've been listening to her, have noticed how much she's been talking about just running away. That I want her to do just that. I want her to leave for awhile, go away, to do whatever it is she feels she needs to do. That I'll take care of things around the house until she can decide what direction she wants her life to head. That I don't want her to "try" to work on OR because it's something she feels she "should" do or "has" to do, but because it's something she "wants" to do. That I want her to be with me of her own free will, and don't want her to try to be someone she's not. That I want our M to not just survive, but to thrive, and under the current conditions, that won't happen.

I think I'll just drop it at that, and see where it goes from there. I want HER to bring up the om issue, and am not sure if I want to be the one to do it. I would really like to suggest she check in for an in-patient treatment program, but I don't know if that should come from me, either. I need to set some boundaries, tell her what I will accept for my own life without telling her what she should do with hers. Some of the things that are going on right now are just causing more damage to OR on a daily basis. After all, I'm just looking for progress, not perfection!!

Wish me luck!!

[This message has been edited by Jamesjohn (edited 09-10-2001).]


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