Progress, not Perfection!!

[Jamesjohn]

Thanks, Kent. Thinking along the same lines, I'll be able to tell a lot about where she's at in the R if / when she finds out. She may get pissed, but setting and enforcing the boundaries should command some respect for me from all parties involved.

Thought about telling her ahead of time, show her the letter and let her know that either she take care of this situation, or I will. Decided against that, seemed too manipulative and controlling, me telling her what to do. This seems to be more like me telling her what I am going to do. And, yes, it's between me and him. She hates to be the bad guy, anyway.

Thanks again, buddy!