She was more sexual. The first year we dated she was awsome in bed, a little inexperineced (so was I) but she was playfull and adventurous. She really didn't have sexual fantesies or ever masterbate but she seemed really into our sex life.
Our problems started when her sister got pregnant and she developed a fear of pregnancy. We were using two forms of BC but she couldn't get over that fear. She never shared that fear with me though and left me wondering and confused. Since this first developed a combination of many factors have hindured us, some seen and some I feel that have yet to be seen. Ofcourse I have heard every excuse in the book on why this is an issue, but I have addressed every one of them as they come along yet it always comes back to her having no desire.
I also agree that is appears hard for the LD person to relate because they are content with the situation ofcourse besides thier SO is 'crabby' and resentfull. I mean they seem satisfied with the amount of sex and have trouble understanding why thier SO wants more. I guess they same could be said for the HD not being able to relate to the LD but...I feel like I am the one doing the work to fix this while she just ignores the issue.
As for bringing up the issue that is thin ice. Brining this up can lead to very stressfull arguements, very little progress, and more pressure on her to perform and in turn less sex and passion for every one.
I know one problem we have is that this stupid issue has become such a wall for us that it really keeps the passion down because at the oppurtunity for passion thier is that 'pink elephant' in the room that no one wants to address but every one is thinking about. (if that makes any sense.)
