From what I can tell her freinds are also LD. I got into a freindly arguemnt with her best freind when we where out to eat because she said she hated it when her husband aked her to go into the hot tub because she knew it ment he wanted to have sex. I argued that it wasn't a bad thing that her husband wanted to have sex with his wife and she said she usaully would just give him a bj to appease him. From that converstaion she came across as LD or somthing along those lines. I know I was really frustrated when my SO came home from a night with the girls and told me they talked about sex and that they all had the same persecptive about sex with thier SO and that she felt normal after talking to them. I can only imagine that converstation about how they hate having sex with thier SO or or how they hate how thier SO always wants sex etc...
My SO quickly dismisses women with HD as slutty or nasty.
Maybie my SO would argue I always want sex, and I want it to much...and I have struggled with this wondering it my self. But I am only asking for 1-2 times a week with some passions and a reciprocity. So...I don't know it seems pretty resonable.
I struggle with alot of insecurities because of this. I often wonder that if she just had the right man to turn her on she would be good. I have reoccuring dreams that she is cheating on me and when I confront her in the dream she concedes that her other lover is just alot better.
She was out with some other friends for a birthday party and night of club jumping and ended up at a male strip club. She came home that night after some drinking and woke me up at 3:30am and told me she was at a male strip club...at first it was a little distressing especially with my insecurities but she started to initiate sex and rub on me sexually (VERY RARE.) I decided to wake up and take advantage of this oppurtunity, but she feel asleep on me! The whole ordeal crushed me and the whole strip club thing really got to me even though she swore she didn't enjoy it. I kind of wondered why? It would be ok if she enjoyed it a little I mean...it would seem a little more sexual atleast.
I think the times all of this is the hardest is after a day of fun togethor that envolved EC and a little flirting and we go to bed and she just falls asleep, I can never handle those nights I always toss and turn and get really resentfull.
For valentines day we got a hotel room and went to see Sienfeld perform. We had some drinks and really enjoyed the show. Our hotel room was a jaquizi sweet and we went back to the room and turned on the tv and got into the jaquizi togethor. we laid so that we were facing each other and started by giving each other foot rubs. My back was to the tv but she told me it seemed I was paying to much to what was on the tv. I turned of the tv to focus more on her but to was to late apparently the mood was ruined. We actually started to have sex at some point but she was so not into it I had to stop...it was very akward and frustrating.
These threads really got me thinking about her before we had this problem and we where both the same sex drive and she was playfull and into sex. Thinking of those times just makes me want them back so much more.
