I have been away for a while trying to make some changes. While things appeared to be getting a little better, there was no real sex yet. We take a shower together sometimes, and occasionally takes that opportunity to take care of me, but this makes me feel like she does not want to have to actually let me truely touch her. We cuddle in bed, usually started by me, but when we kiss she seems to pull away most times. So I think she is just pretending more and more which makes things worse. Until she truely cooperates, and is actually intimate with me meaningfully for both of us, nothing will change. I am still ignored regularly, we never spend more than a few quality moments together, and I still have no interest in my previous interests. In a nutshell, nothing has changed. She still does not want to be intimate with me evne though she thinks I am foolish enough to believe she really cares. I am not falling for it. On the other hand I thought travelling with her would help me see what she is missing at home, however it is turing out to be a bad idea as I am getting the feeling I will be ignored in favor of friends and such that I dont know. Not much hope of any one on one time or physical time while there.
So, who knows, I guess I have to grin and bear it some more.
I am truly sorry you had trouble with your LD and your husband did not say there was a problem with it until it was too late. So in my case, it is a true lack of desire on my wifes part as I believe she lusts for another she can never have, but it may just be a severe distraction on her part in her interest in me. There is certainly NO emotional connection on her part. So I would have to ask you...even though you did not desire sex with him, was there a physical, emotional connection? In your husbands case....does he just desire sex or does he desire the emotional connection that sex brings? That is my and my wifes problem. It means nothing to her, but the closeness at the moment seems to mean everything to me. if you husband just desires sex and you can tolerate it, then you can fullfill his desires when you have the chance. If he desires the emotional connection, then you have to sore that out in your head before you attempt anything. If he desires the emotional connection, you may not be able to satisfy him.
In my case, the plane sex would help, but the connection is waht is missing for me and I cannot feel that from her until she is completely giving and not distracted.
We had a bit of a discussion but no change yet at all.
Any progress Truman? I am not sure what my wife could say she is unsatisfied with. I provide, give her just about whatever she wants, desire time with her, give physical contact to the point where i feel clingy, and take care of the home so she can do what she wants. Soooo, what she could be longing for can only be in her head. The only thing I can think is that we are not the most social people so we dont really hang out with friends and such so she may be missing contact with others, but she does not like to hang out with my relatives or anyone she nows locally since they are not interested in her obsession.
