yep; Same here. I have been reading, changing things, trying to change myself, spending more time with my D to make up for her lack of interest. All the while she says I did not mention any changes she had made (not being on the phone ALL night), however, the last confrontation, she told me I needed help. I caved and apologized for my insecurites to which she I was acting weak and like a typical guy. I did not walk away from the confrontation as I should have and it lead to nothing. The next day I came across this web site, and I have backed off and felt better. I know if I had never said a word, that we would be coasting now and happier, but better to try to fix it I think. I just did not approach it very well, and used a lot of I and you act likes. I also tried to tell her how she felt by pointing out her actions. So in a nut shell, the S part would probably be okay if I had never said anything and who knows if I would be happy in a few hours.
I feel your frustration Truman. I dont know every detail, but dont give up. I would think that pulling back a little, giving her some space, and focusing on your interests rather than her and her actions might make you feel better and give you guys some time to let things work themselves out a little. I dont think scheduled S sounds like a good idea, but who knows, but living for yourself for a while and excluding her may be helpful. Whatever you do, dont throw it out yet.
What does "officially" seperated mean to HER? You cant really know can you?
