A friend told me "officially" separated means that you physically are living apart AND have an agreement on division of assets.
She could mean dating, but I somehow doubt that and I would not agree to it...not that she needs my permission. She pretty much does whatever. If I disagree, then I am "controlling".
Frankly, as if anyone has not noticed, I am frustated, hurt and annoyed by this whole issue. It seems so one sided. Yes, she has gone to MC, Doctors, etc - but seems to only follow through with their directions if she wants to. She stops the change in medicine or the MC and goes back to whatever suits her.
She has never stopped and said that she knows this is hurting me, said she is sorry, or given me much of any sympathy/empathy or indication that she is dedicated to working this out.
I continue to run around seeking ways to fix things, give in to her wishes, do what's right for the family or the marriage. I really do not think that she recognizes all the things I do. When she gets something, she just pushes for more all the while leaving my wishes behind.
