Yeah, I dont like the Officially seperated comment either. In what context did she say that? Was it, "when I am away we are officially seperated..."
I believe if my wife said that to me, she better have a good reason.
Its hard to keep the sex thing out of my head, since that is largely what sparked both our problems it sounds like. In my case, my wife could not care whether I was home or not after her last trip and proved it after ML. She did however ML 2x within a few days of returning, and at the time it seemed normal, but since I found out she was missing her obsession, anything has been forced.
My wife has been pretending ever since with all aspects of our relationship. Pretending to care, pretending she wants to hold my hand, pretending to want to eat dinner with the family, pretending to care that I am home, pretending to care about my daughters accomplishments...but as soon as she talks to a net friend of hers, its all gone and the obsession is back. The only consistancy in the last few weeks is no interest in Sex or genuine physical contact with me. She has called me several times on her trip acting like nothing has ever been wrong, but the minute she gets home the tension will come back I am sure.
So the point is, I miss my wife too when she is home, same as you. She is not the same person I married 10 years ago, as a matter of fact, she is not the same person she was in September when this obsession started with the celebrity.
Is there something like this distracting your wife?
