W went out with the girls (?)last night. I decided to go out, too. I got home earlier, left her a note thanking her for sharing some info with me yesterday, hope she had a fun time tonight-she deserved it. Not sure what time she got home, but when she came to bed, she snuggled up real close and was pretty loving, and said that it felt good.
She got up before me this morning, made us some coffee, and we visited for a bit. While I was in the shower, she came in and said she'd be right back, was gonna meet her Dad at the store. When she came back, she confessed that she lied to me, om showed up at the house wanting a ride to work. I remained calm, just asked a couple of light questions, and let it go. I thanked her for being honest with me, and I continued on in the same mood that we started the day with. She apologized, and I told her that I know it wasn't her fault he showed up there. She was very touchy and kissy the rest of the morning. There hasn't been any "I love you's" lately, but those are just words, anyway. The actions are what count.
Very strange days. Not EVEN gonna dwell long on what's going on, I don't think SHE even knows. I'm staying detached, and going out with some friends tonite.
She just called, we talked about how great our day goes when we have mornings together. She apologized again about om, said he's been trying to call her all day, and she's not taking the calls. I thanked her for letting me know about it, that I could handle her being honest with me. She wants to talk to me more about him later. OK.
I'll be the good, fun, happy, loving guy, and he can be the obnoxious, irritating, manipulative jerk.
Progress, not perfection!
JJ
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