Thanks for your feedback. I recognize my W is LD, although it seems oddly coincidental that she had a regular drive pre-marriage and as soon as we got married, there was a drive change. Perhaps this is coincidental, but it's pretty hard to disregard that time line.
As you suggest, I will try to set some time frame goals. It will have to be done in such a way so as not to imply pressure as I do not want to force it.
I too have had the discussions of how this will drive a wedge between us (drift apart), which it has in some ways. We are hanging in there, but often I feel as though there is no hope. She gets angry if I bring it up and this turns into occasional arguments. I recognize that does not help matters, but also I feel the need to express the pain/frustration in hopes of cooperatively finding middle ground.
It's a difficult balance between being sensitive to her feelings/issues and at some points, putting my foot down.
