i think your approach was right on the money. by telling her that you are unhappy, but that you are not giving up - and that you've tried everything you can think of, and are STILL willing to do more if it will help... i think you have put the ball, appropriately, in her court. if i am not mistaken, this is what michelle advises, and it is all we can do. i feel exactly as you do. i would never want to 'force' it... and 'gifts' will never amount to genuine desire. what has helped me so far... is to set goals that are specifially time-oriented. as if to say 'do whatever it takes for you to get turned-on... take your time and pick you night or day... but it has to happen at least once a week'... and the consequences, i told my fiance, are not that i will leave... but that we will drift further apart. not by my choice. but it will just happen. and that has really scared her. almost as scared as i have been for months that this will never change. after we've done everything we can... we have to put it in their court. i think you did the right thing. i only suggest making some goals with a time limit and consequences that affect both of you...
