Quote: I cannot just give up sex indefinitely and without any explantion. I have told her this. I just do not know that there is much more I can do/sacrafice. Is it time to go?????
I am with you on this. The once-in-a-blue-moon sex thing is driving me crazy though I know why my H does it... anger, resentment, wanting to hold on the the 'victim' role... he is a man that self-admits that he likes to hold grudges. Just never thought it would be against me. As for is it time to go? Only you can decide that. I have alot of years invested with my H (28 total) and find that I cannot just walk away if there is any hope at all. Which is at present quite the roller-coaster ride. Don't think I have a stomach left from all the drops!
Quote: She has asked for changes both prior to and in MC. I have made some/most of those changes and not agreed to others (all approved by the MC).
I'm not sure what you mean about 'agreements' prior to marriage... verbally agreed upon? I really don't think of marriage as a business contract... to many emotions involved for that. How do you 'contract' something like that?
If your MC is NOT really helping; as in NOT holding your W accountable for her part in your R I suggest you find a new MC. Something needs to shake your W out of her silence and say why she behaves as she does. If takes a new MC then I'd do it immediately.
Quote: I suppose you are right in that she has the security with me, but I thought that was my job to provide anyway.
I guess that's a traditional thought but it is not your obligation if she is 'using' you for that security. She either needs to step up and become a contributing partner in your R or...
