Of course I don't know all the details of your interactions with your W and I know there are two sides to every story and slap me silly cuz I may be completely out of line here but...
It sounds to me like she is maybe using you for the security that you bring to the table... SO why should she have to 'put out' (and I'm not just talking about sex)when you do everything and expect nothing EXCEPT sex?
Could it be a control issue? That maybe she feels as this is the only thing SHE has control over in your M?
You mentioned that her issues could have something to do with her past relationships... relationships with who? Other men? Father? Mother? And what did those R's entail?
