P.s. The kissing thing, closed mouth....this also only occurred after we got married. Before marriage, we had a lot of make out sessions and open mouth kissing during ML.
I hate to say it, but I have thought for a long time that she got me to marry her and now she feels no obligation to a physical relationship. When she get's really mad, she says if I am unhappy, I should just leave...but references how she'll take my finances. I, in turn, have told her that the main reason I have stayed is because I do not want to hurt her kids. So we have these downward spirals occasionally.
The capper is that we actualy discussed all issues of compatibility before getting married. This included among others: finances, how to handle her kids, religious outlook, responsibilities of each AND sexual expectations. ML was said to average about 3 times a week. The sex part has never happened, not even close.
Initially I went through a phase where I thought that I was not doing enough for her so I took on more of the responsibilities to "romance" her into bed. All I ended up with is more reposnibilities.
It's a little depressing having to be the one chasing all over trying to please your spouse into sex. She does not chase me all over when it's time to dish out money, it's just expected. I know that's not a great anology, but what I am getting at is that I have done my part and been patient for 2 years of these sex issues.
I do not think any of these extra responsibilities I took on have made any in roads for ML. It's like being a slave; doing all the work and getting nothing but table scraps in return.
