It drives me nuts sometimes...so thanks for the feedback. I do not want to quit so I have been / am trying, but status quo will not work.
As far as making life too easy, it may sound like it - but I knew/agreed to this before marriage and have lived up to my end of the deal. She would probably say her life is not so easy, I guess it's all about persepctive. She has kids from her 1st marriage and I totally respect that she spends the time with them. (Not that working moms do worse, I just respect her desire to make the kids her work) What goes on with her free time while they are in school is debatable, but I do not push that very much. She used to complain alot about being a single mom and how tough it was. Now that she has my help, it may be that she forgot how difficult it was without me.
We do spend time together and find ourselves laughing, etc. Our interests do not totally overlap, but there is common ground. She is definitely my friend, I think she may even view me as a "friend" and not a spouse. There are activities that she did while dating that she will not do now; i.e. going out to concerts / bars, nightlife, etc. So that's another "bait and switch" issue.
The trust issue...she has not specified, other than mentioning me investing in something she thought was not a money maker...but that investment was done through my business - NOT our personal monies. I told her that I was doing this business before we met, while we dated and after we were married and that I cannot call her and ask permission for every business transaction I do. BTW that investment looks to have nearly doubled and I should get the principal plus profit in the next 30 days.
The trust issue may stem from her prior relationships. Nonetheless, it's a bummer to work so hard and get nothing back plus not be trusted.
