Alcohol abuse can cause all kinds of conditions. I was dumb in thinking that if I could get the alcohol out of the relationship, it would be ok. It doesn't work that way. Do you and H have problems with the alcohol? Not just your SL but other problems? I can tell you that Alanon was a great source of information and help to me. I found out I was actually enabling him to drink. It was a big surprise to me. I wish you the best.
