JJ-

Sorry to hear that things are difficult on the kids front. I am not sure what kind of problems you've been having with them, (and I certainly am in no place to be offering opinions) but your post reminded me a little of an example given in DB book - About the couple who fought over the stepdaughter and so one of them moved positions drastically to show the united front, (which seemed risky because it didn't match their opinions.) But in the end, it changed the dynamic quite a bit. I don't know-maybe you've tried that before. I can see why you'd want to wait right now until the C session. It's really good that you can SEE when they are returning to old patterns.

Thanks for sharing your thoughts - It looks like an effective list that supports controlling your REACTIONS.

thanks for all the help you've been giving me, I feel like I should not be mucking about in anyone else's situation, considering how messed up mine is but I am following you.


LeeP