Thank you for the reply Sonia. I am thinking, that perhaps we need to change attitude when we meet such a problem. My partner and I are not together anymore, we broke up 6 months ago, but I still thought there was hope. I am trying to understand my part in the break up, but I guess there are some things, which just have nothing to do with me. This is what I would like to share with all of you, who feel cheated. I found out recently, that my partner has a very strange hobby: he goes to road-side girls, and pays them to get satisfaction. Otherwise, he is a very resepcted man, his friends look up on him as he were a god (I did too), and no one in his environment would imagine that he has such interests.
I started thinking, with help, that this behaviour has nothing to do with me - it was like this before me, and it will be like this for a while yet. At least until he is ready to commit in a relationship. He did have an 8 year relationship before me , but Iknow his ex was cheating on him, and he also had his affairs with paygirls. SO that was not a very committed relationship either.
I would like to ask Michele to help us in chaging attitude, because my Mom said a very wise thing (married for 40 years). She said that if that man loves you, than it is ok for him to get sexual satisfaction from other women - for reasons we are not able to understand - because those mean nothing. But it is more difficult to chose the right man, and the right man is the one who loves you the way you need to be loved. So if we have all our needs satisifed (or at least most) in a relationship, than perhaps these things are easier to accept.
What do you think girls? Also I would like the men's opinion on this. I know I cannot think with a man's mind, but sometimes it would be a great help!
