(wrote this last night, couldn't post until today)
I'm just being "out doing something" tonight.
Left W a text message on her phone, said I had some things to do, wouldn't be home until 10 or 11. LUV U. 30 seconds later, she called me. Twice. Didn't answer. Last message she said "it's wierd to have you not answer the phone". She apologized for hanging up so quick on the first call. Called her back 1/2 hour later, small talk, she's gonna cook dinner, what am I gonna do? (help a friend). I love you, JJ.
I'm feeling much calmer and centered today. More detached. Taking things less personal.
W's got some traumas going on, things she screwed-up on while we were separated, strangers she defended and trusted that burned her. She's got a lot of crap coming down, she created most of it, but it's not my job to remind her of this. My distancing dance will have to be very tight. As her friend, I will give her my support as much as I can. I guess some things can (and WILL) be dealt with at a later date. I could do a lot of damage if I don't pay attention to what I'm doing. I can gain a lot of ground if I do the right things. Like listening, comforting, being strong, and being her best friend. Wish me luck.
JJ
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