Well, it's true that making a change can CAUSE a change. Not exactly sure what direction it'll head in, but time will tell.

Didn't call W at all yesterday. She called about 6:45, didn't leave a message. Called her back 15 minutes later, she was at our mutual friend's house. Great people, her best good friend, good sign. She ended the call with "see you soon, honey". I got there, kissed her, mixed a drink, and went out to talk with the H. She left before I did to take S to his cousin's. When she left, she hugged me, said I love you.

We got home, she initiated a few more hugs and kisses, one or two more I love you's. Before I went to bed, she thanked me for reminding her about her C appointment today. Said she made an appointment for US on the 9th, would I be willing to come? Told her yes, I would.

Seems to be a lot going through her head right now. Still kind of distant, but not in a way that makes me nervous. She seems to be very humble, nervous about approaching me, but still doing it a little. She slept on the couch last night, I know she needs some space right now. At least she stayed home. I kissed her goodbye this morning, she smiled big for me. Held me close for a few minutes, held my face and my hand. She said I smell good , I said I AM good!! (a morning ritual for us). This morning, she added "I know you are".

She only called om twice yesterday, both times at work. She never mentioned anything about the papers I left her, and I'm not gonna bring it up. Seems she got the point, one way or the other. Which direction it goes in is still left to be seen.

My plan of action? Do nothing, at least for a few days. Be distant, but loving. Give her a BUNCH of space again. Ask no questions, just listen, observe, and learn. Catch her doing things right, and let her know about them. Treat her like my best friend, nothing more, and nothing less. Remember all the positive things that have happened in the past few months. Open arms, and open eyes. Take some time for things I've been neglecting lately, and recharge my batteries. Basically, more of what's been working.

Thanks for being here for me. I'll keep you updated.


JJ

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