Hey gang, just checking in. Not a whole lot happening, just mostly good stuff. W and I are talking a lot, some OR stuff, some not. We're learning a bit more about each other everyday, finding out that in many ways, we're a lot alike.

W's been working some, not much pay, but it's been great for her self-esteem. Even she's noticed the difference.

I was re-reading the goals I set when I was doing the KLA group, and I see that most of them have been realized. I haven't directly shared these with W, so there's some proof that one person can cause changes in a relationship. I've been much better at not avoiding conflict, not letting things fester inside of me, and it's really made a big difference in our relationship, and my sanity. W's noticed these changes, and has commented on them many times. Some of the issues that would have been major in the past now seem relatively small, and are easily worked out. W's said that God puts people together for a reason, and that we're good for each other, we each help to balance each other.

OM's pretty much out of the picture. W's been excellent about letting me know when there's any contact lately. He left some flowers by her car last week, she brought them in and put them in a vase. I made no comment about it, pretty tough to do, and they were only in the house for about 2 days. He showed up where she works one day, being sad and pitiful. This didn't go over well with her, she sent him on his way, and asked him not to come there again. He keeps driving nails into his own coffin, and I'm loving it!!

I've found a little something I can do that really means a lot to W. She loves when I read to her in bed. She says she loves the sound of my voice, it comforts her, helps her to relax, keeps her mind from racing with problems when she lays down. I must be pretty boring, she usually falls asleep as I'm reading to her! She's been sleeping well through the night, and gives me a wonderful smile and an "I love you" when I kiss her goodbye in the morning. This is really special to me, she's still kinda sleeping when she does this, which makes it seem more like it's really from her heart.

All in all, life is good right now. And it seems like it's getting better all the time. I'm a happy guy!

[This message has been edited by Jamesjohn (edited 07-05-2001).]


JJ

Read about Divorce Busting® Telephone Coaching here!