I just went out and bought the Snarch book. At a glance, it appears to focus more on sexuality than I might have thought. I look forward to reading it.
Also, do you all have any luck getting SO to read the R books that you all do? It appears to me that one of the themes running through these threads is that we all are invested and investing in the R by doing things like reading self-help books of this sort, while our LD partners feel there is no reason to work on anything so do not.
I have asked my W to read a couple of the R books that I have and she always has an excuse not to. Usually that she it too tired at the end of the day. My sense is that these books are a threat to her already low self esteem. Often she actually reacts angrily if I bring it up again, as if to say it is just one more bit of pressure on her to be someone she is not and will never be, nor has any desire to be.
As I have been told before, the ones in the relationship who seek help are usually not the ones who need it.
