******************************************** Is the alien peaking it's head out again, or am I just trying to be controlling, and need to WAY detach some more? ********************************************
JJ,
Kent has good advice that I also need to take right now (as is usually the case )
I think regarding your question, it could be both, and just another blip in the radar to get through... A test. Is it a trust issue? I would probably feel just like you do, and then come here asking the same things. I thought about it and there's a few angles here that maybe you could think about: is W going to want to give up this friend or going out? If not, is this something that YOU could do (would show her you want to trust her (act as if) and she would rise to the occasion? If you consciously make the choice to trust her, even if she doesn't deserve it yet, what will she do? Run with it, or rise to the occasion?
This is always something to juggle. How to not be taken advantage of (since we have already been, here). (and I think Kent's suggestions are good) And also not wing for our S to change first. (DBing 101).
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