Hi, everyone! Just updating a little, and venting a little. Am into the "one step backward" part, I need to regroup myself, and look at the progress being made.

Mother's Day ended up being a bad day for W towards the end of the day. Our S is living out of state with his uncle, and him not being home got to her. I tried to be very supportive, but I can only do so much, and she ended up going "blue", and started heading into a bout of depression. She ended up staying back in "her" room that evening, and has been there since. She went pretty "gray" for a few days, but is starting to come out of it. I think I'm feeling the fallout from it now. There's been a lot going on, I've been giving a lot to her, and I'm starting to feel needy now. Time for me to distance a bit, I think. Been doing that in small doses, and it's amazing to see how well it works.

It was just so nice to be sleeping with each other again. I may have backslid, told her I felt she was running away from me by going back to "her" room. She told me she liked it when I invited her to stay in "my" room, I told her she was welcome there anytime.

Watched a show on tv the other night which dealt with an OM, and it kinda got to me, and I think it got to her, too. We haven't talked about it, I don't want to start an OR discussion right now. Well, I DO want to talk, but I know I shouldn't.

We've been having a lot of good times together lately, there is a lot of forward movement, I need to remember that, and not push it. It's hard at times.

We met with her counselor again, I think this will go well. W will meet with her alone next time, which is fine. I told W I'd go with her as long as she wanted to. This is HER therapy, ours will come soon. Her C seems very solution oriented, and is giving her some tools to help deal with her situations. I had a marriage counseling session set for the same day, but canceled it, thinking it may be too much at once. Maybe I was wrong, she was pretty deep in her depression, and I took it upon myself to cancel the appointment. She did agree to listen to the KLA tapes with me, hoping to start that soon.

I need to remember to have a lot of patience, and look towards progress, and not perfection, right?!?!


JJ

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