Hey JamesJohn, sounds like you're doing great. I may have to start my own post here soon.
It's so helpful to read through all these posts and see that what H and I are going through is pretty much the norm, gives me hope. I'm also glad (in a self centered way) to see your spouse doesn't have that passion back right away either. That is a big concern of my H's and I've felt it could return and was a normal emotion for him, on the heels of the affiar. He fears it means it will never return.
I'm also interested to read about the separate beds. H and I slept together (no sex) for 3 nights after he decided to work on us, but I think that was to much for him and he's backed away and isn't staying over anymore. Did you suggest that she have the extra bedroom or did she-that's something that I could suggest to let H know I don't expect him right back in the sack and give him some space maybe. What does everyone think?
You all give me so much hope as I am just beginning this new phase!
