Great news! Welcome to the club and congratulations on your success with the DB approach.You are a teriffic man to work so hard to save your marriage.Your wife is very fortunate and she knows it! Keep up the good work ...you are building a new and better relationship! My "DBing" helped to restore my marriage last spring,however,I keep at it since I don't ever want to slip into dangerous territory,again and the healing process brings can have some ups and downs.