Cobra,

I had a kind of friend at work who yes seemed very interested. I did end that friendship and do not work with anymore or see him. Then I also do have another male friend who there is no interest there. It is just a friendship.

Okay he KEEPS sticking to the story about the condoms saying he ONLY did this to piss me off. Just to prove that I snoop on him. He went out the other night with a friend and came home late. I was not happy at all. We ended up arguing and just as I thought and can feel he is so angry. It is all being directed at me.

Also cobra I don't have blinders on. I already realize I have faults and contribute. I think I have stated this. I am working hard on myself. So are you saying you think this whole condom thing is the 2x4?
Now I do tend to like to be in the charge in the past. I don't know where that comes from. But that is also steadily changing. Just something I realized had to be annoying.LOL But I don't mind being told things. Or having something asked of me. I honestly would not be attracted to a spineless man. I like a man with a backbone. I am not only focusing on my needs. I am trying to work on me to be a better wife to him. I am also trying to concentrate on him and help him in any way that I can.

But I am sooooooooo confused so please explain this alpha male thing. If he had a problem with my male friend why not tell me? How am I supposed to know. And just like the other night I flat out asked him if it bothered him like I have before. He didn't answer. If it bothered him of course I would stop. If this is what he is angry about he needs to be honest with communication. Not play games. We are adults not children. Another thing he said is I am not jealous at all. I don't ever think about you having an affair. I said why not out of curiousity. He said because I don't have a warped mind.