I don't think you are a neandrethal at all. I think you have spoken a truth that most women prefer to hide from. That truth may not be universal but I think it is close enough. The bottom line is that there is an opportunity cost to sharing intimacies and confidences with another party of the opposite sex. When we get caught up in our friendships we often lose the opportunity to share those thoughts, conversations, intimacies and confidences with our mate. To the extent that we get our male/female relational needs met outside our M, the M becomes more of about partnership and childrearing than about relationship.
