See I know it is possible and am keeping eyes and ears open. But in my heart I guess I don't believe he is having an affair. Part of me believes he wouldn't have the confidence to.

Speaking from some experience here Cally, I think that last statement is going to bite you in the azz sooner or later. I'm sure your H can sense that attitude in you if you haven't flat out said it to him. It's insulting frankly. I used to have similar thoughts about my H but I think that it kills the attraction for sure. I'm certainly not surprised to hear you are now LD if you are having such feelings about him. A less than confident man is simply not attractive.