He could be. But why not just say it. I would be willing to try and meet my husbands needs. But he never states what his needs are. Why try to anger someone or hurt them in this way. If he wantd something or of something was bothering him then he should say so.
How many times have we read/posted on here that we want our spouse to do something without us having to ask for it? It's VERY possible he's wanting a reaction out of you that he views as sincere.....asking for it and then you giving it as we've almost all said on here, doesn't generally come across as sincere.
Also, don't short-change your H on whether or not he'd have an A. What you are doing is putting blinders on yourself. It doesn't take self-confidence to have an A...all it takes is looking for something you aren't receiving.....and having someone available that fills that void.
