First, I am very sorry. This does look very suspicious and I would very strongly resist being accused of snooping in this case. It is perfectly permissable to get something from one another's wallet. H goes in my purse all the time. If I had something to hide I wouldn't hide it there. However, people who have something to hide aren't always smart about it. I hope you have caught whatever is going on early but I think it sounds like something is going on.
Please take care of yourself while you are dealing with this. It will do you no good to fall apart.
