Corri and Green,

I wil keep my eyes wide open. Good idea to drop it right now so he won't be as defensive.

Baltoman,

I do think it could be a tactic to try and shake things up. I don't know if he thinks I am not willing to meet his needs. He doesn't really state out right what his needs are. I am not sure if he thinks I take him for granted. I do most of the work around here plus work myself. I such an open book. If he looked through my purse or drawers or anything it just doesn't bother me at all. That is what I thought to if a person really wanted to hide things why leave a condom right in the wallet. It would be just down right stupid. I would think if I was having an affair or was thinking about it I would be heck of a lot more careful then that. It's like he wanted me to find it.

I see him going through many changes. He is angry a lot. I have heard him mention a lot of anxiety about going bald. His hair has turned grey and he fought that forever and dyed it. Now he has given in and just let it happen. He has gained quite a bit of weight and seems very self conscious about it. Like you can tell he is uncomfortable about taking off his shirt. He is forever starting these diets, diet pills, working out but doesn't seem to stick to any of them. He is unhappy working the shift he is but never does anything to try and better himself not that he needs to. But if someone was unhappy you can always make change.

Meanwhile I have improved. I don't know if it bothers him. I started working. I lost weight. I work out. I made friends and I work out or sometimes go to lunch with. I am enrolling to go back to school for a degree. My husband doesn't really have friends. He has one that he works with. But they never really hang out. He doesn't have outside activities. He works and then comes home. When I work he is with the kid's. He almost seems like he could be depressed.