Your H is lying to you. Accept it, but do not expect him to come clean about it.
If I were you, I would back off completely and act as if you have let the matter drop entirely. If you stay on this, he is going to get more defensive and more careful.
Pull the cell phone records. Gather everything you can. Hold onto your information, do not use anything to confront him.
If you really want to know, hire a private detective.
He is going to be on alert right now because you found the condoms, so you will have to remain calm and act as if everything is fine and dandy. In a few weeks, go to work early or come home early and see what's what.
You WILL find out, but you are going to have to build your strength and your mental toughness. Prepare yourself for the absolute worst...
To me, those condoms are already a smoking gun. I am so very, very sorry and I send you endless hugs. Stay strong, keep calm and keep your eyes open. Dig, girl.
