I'm Really At Such A Loss ??

[Brian_M]

Cally
You busted him prepping for or already engaged in an PA.

Telling me how I am a snoop and nobody has any privacy in this house except for me.

Defensive BS to try and weasel his way out of responsibility.

That he was ONLY doing that to test me by buying this package of condoms. he said he threw the other 2 away and left the one in his wallet because all he needed was the one to prove his point.

Again, BS. He has the other two stashed. Ask for details. Where did he throw them away? Was it at the store where he bought them? Did he just stand there on the curb of the 7 Eleven, unwrap a box of condoms in plain sight, and then throw two of them away?

I told him I thought that was inappropriate for him to be telling her anything

Exactly! It is inappropriate for him to be discussing her personal marriage issues with another woman.

So when I approach him again I am going to tell him I will confront her myself. Do you think that is a good idea or bad?

Bad idea. It will anger him and make your situation worse. At this point, it probably would not make any difference any way.

All the sings of what you have described scream “WARNING!”. At the very least, it is time to get really serious about your trouble areas really fast. Plus, I think he just handed your rights to racket up the a$$ kicking a bit. Though, if you want my suggestion, the absolute best weapon you can yield right now would be to make sure he leaves home F’ed so silly that he won’t even be able to think about an OW. The fact that he bought condoms most obviously says that he is not happy with sex with you. Thus, if you do a 180 and work on getting the SL back up to a roar, that should address his most obvious problem area. Yea, yea, I know…that is a complicated and difficult topic. Still, think about it.