Nothing much new here - BUT.....My 180 worked like a charm!! H was very curious and a little bit miffed that I went out by myself this weekend!! He was worried about my safety - and he made several comments about guys hitting on me!! He said he even wished he had come home on Saturday instead of Sunday!!! He did not have a very exciting time on his little jaunt with his college buds.
We had a minor argument yesterday afternoon - he was grumpy and snapped at me and I let him know I did not like it (this is my weak area of DB - keeping quiet and not reacting to verbal slights - disrespect is a biggie for me). I just bought Gottman's 7 Principles book on Saturday and began reading it after our argument and was slapped in the face with MYSELF!! It started bawling - I felt so terrible about my part in our patterns of arguing. Amazingly, H came and sat down next to me and comforted me - IT HAS BEN A LONG TIME!!
We talked about what I had read - and he opened up a little - said that he wants to be deeply in love with me and knows he has not tried very hard. I admitted that I had fallen back into some old patterns in the last couple of weeks and I knew that hadn't helped. It was very productive - when he started talking, I just listened. He changed the subject a bit - but I did not redirect it like I normally would. I let it go (a big step for me) and did not push. I felt it was a big step - the most he has opended up in a while. Later we enjoyed a little "afternoon delight" and had a lovely evening together.
This morning he called me at work - this is rare - He just wanted to say hi and tell me how much he enjoyed yesterday. All in all, I'd say it was a great weekend!!
our 10th anniversary is Friday - he talked about how he wants for us to get away and have a great time - even mentioned making reservations at my favorite old hotel in Louisville!!
Baby steps all the way!!! He is deeply in love with me - he just doesn't know it yet!!!
[This message has been edited by biv_b (edited 05-14-2001).]
