Kent - Thanks for checking in! I felt so good about what I did! He called this morning to check in. I was so chipper - said I had slept in - Stayed out too late! He did not respond right away. Then he started telling me about how it was pretty boring last night, etc, and that he decided to come home tomorrow - I said I think that's a great idea!! Have a good time! Then he asked me what I did last night - I said I went to the blues club we like and heard a great band - the place was packed!! He asked who I went with!! I said oh, just AXXX my recently divorced friend I work with. NO COMMENT! I did have a great time and am making plans to do something else fun tonight - I'm enjoying my day alone and relaxing doing what I want to do!
I once again told him to have a great time - he said I'll call you later - I said "whatever - that is not necessary - just have fun!!" I am continuing to encourage him to do what he wants! I made no mention of OW and whether he had seen her! I am focused on letting go of that!! This is my chance.
I will continue when he gets back tomorrow! i feel rejuvenated in my efforts - Sometimes it is hard for me to figure out ways to do these things on a day to day basis since I've come back home - it is so easy to fall into a pattern of either overfunctioning or going through the motions of everyday life - I want to live consciously without being the one to do all the work in the R.
He did not respond right away. Then he started telling me about how it was pretty boring last night, etc, and that he decided to come home tomorrow - I said I think that's a great idea!! Have a good time! 
