About whining - I eventually got sick of hearing my own whine and it doesn't do ya any good. I decided to take the whine and do something with that energy in the form of exercise - walking, jogging, kickboxing. The kickboxing instructor told me I was whopping a pretty mean punch. If he only knew! Get going. Stop whining. Do something good for yourself that will help propel you forward and get your mind off the past. It's over and we can't change it!
About the vows - I know. So what part of "honor, love, cherish" is our spouse thinking of when they engage in activities that betray us? (Where's Harlequinn? I hope he's proud of me that I didn't make that comment exclusive to Hs that betray Ws.) The stickler vow part for me is the better/worse and in good times and in bad. Worse and bad stink. But those times are real. Everytime I start thinking D, I remember that part of the vows. I said them and I meant them. I long for "better" and "good times" and am taking responsibility by doing my part to make that happen.
Listen to Kent. It's warm and sunny here today, too. Get out there and enjoy it!
Violet
P.S. Watch the Sopranos if you need some new "dance" moves. (ha!) I turned our den into the "VIP Room" the other night and shocked H beyond belief.
