i'm sorry, i forgot to respond to what you were saying earlier. yes, i do see that they believe we are trying to be self-righteous. at 1st i just kept telling my W that was the way that i wanted to start living. she keeps telling me that she is not where i am at with the Lord. which is completely understandable. we do daily devotions together (which started after the bomb), but sometimes i feel she is just doing it to do it. i really don't know if she takes them to heart. D is just 6 months away, but i am continuing to trust in the Lord.
here is something else for everyone about letting go and letting God. i really had trouble with this:
Let Go and Let God As children bring their broken toys, with tears for us to mend, I brought my broken dreams to God, because He is my friend. But then instead of leaving Him in peace to work alone, I hung around and tried to help with ways that were my own. At last, I snatched them back again and cried, "How can you be so slow?" "My child," He said, "What could I do? You never did let go." "Ask and it shall be given to you; seek and you shall find"