Me2- Never showed W anything like the affirmation but at times told her I was committed to walking with the Lord, and growing in my faith through our ordeal. I also told her I felt certain God had brought us together but He would not MAKE her stay with me. She did not want to work on the marriage for the longest time (things are very much better now) she was keeping the Lord at a distance. Giving her something like this would be like "forcing" religion on someone who has no interest in it, wouldn't do much good IMHO.

I personally found the Dobson article more helpful to me because it released me, and gave her some breathing room. As a preface to the article, I did tell her I would not stop her if she filed for divorce (of course, if she did file which she never did, I wasn't about to expedite things).

Here's that article link if you've never read it before: http://www.family.org/docstudy/newsletters/A0011702.html

Trent- felt the same way you do about God letting me go through this to be able to minister to others. One other thought, I think Chrisitian W's resent their H's if they feel the H is being self righteous. They blame us anyway for the way they feel (this is true when the genders are reversed as well). "Standing" for the marriage, I think, only irritates them more if it comes accross like, "I am standing, even though you betrayed me, I am standing etc." Certainly it is not the betrayed spouses intention to inflame the situation more, I just think it can come accross that way to the betraying spouse because they already feel guilty and distant from God. I pray He minister to you like never before. I remain, Committed2Him.


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