Open question about resources for "piecing"

[Committed2Him]

Open question As I read through parts of this board, I have also experienced the mixed feelings of relief, joy, anger and resentment over having been the "wronged" spouse. I have been carefully examining my contribution to the deterioration of the marriage which eventually led to W's EA/PA so I am not holding myself completely harmless.

My relationship has improved greatly compared to a year ago when things were very uncertain. My wife fluctuates between, during the better times, "high appreciation" and some feelings of love for me. When she is "low," I would describe her as "resigned to staying married for the kids sake, 'tolerant' of me with no desire to go back to OM or to be with someone else.

Now here's the question, what books have been recommended to those who are in the recovery stage? What "online" resources have been helpful?

Also, some have mentioned experiencing what they call "post traumatic snydrome" behaviors, feelings or experiences? Can anyone elaborate on this a bit and if so, how are you dealing with these feelings?

I have read and continue to read books to cultivate the fire such as "Light Her Fire," and "The Five Love Languages." I think I have "After the affair" and have read bits and pieces but I misplaced it. Looking forward to learning and growing some more and sharing what I've learned if it can be of help, C2H