You might want to try not to be so sure what your W is dead set against.... It makes it very hard for her to be someone different -- someone open to counseling or support groups.
And, you might not be as right as you think you are about her position on this stuff. You have, after all, been wrong about other things you felt certain about.
Beginner's mind...
Most people are very against counseling as a defensive reaction. There is something they are unwilling to deal with. But, that can change when something changes and they grow a bit. You don't want your rigid mental image of W to subtly block her progress.
