I think what really complicates my sitch, as well as my reaction to it, is the simple fact that as part of her issue, she is unable to express emotion or have any "love" to give because she feels emotionally listless and useless herself. That's the hardest part about this whole ordeal for me because, as she's described it, she is completely "numb and holllow" which is symptomatic of her illness. I literally can't have emotional R talks with her or put any expectations upon her, becuase she has no way to process emotions at this point.
This is where I really get trapped becasue I want to be there for her through this very, very difficult time for her especially since I believe I hadn't been before, but I cannot enable her or subjugate my needs. Basically, I have to detach from the illness, as well as the previous A. This is why I have my first C session scheduled for next Thursday, lol.
Yes, it is a very fine line between enabling and offering genunie support. This is definitely something I have to further identify as well and something I really hope that my counselor can quide me on.
In any event, I didn't want to hi-jack here, and I should update on my own thread.
"Achieve success, but without vanity; Achieve success, but without aggression; Achieve success, but without gain; Achieve success, but without force." Lao Tzu
