Also, I know you have been dealing with the same kinds of things (as always, my brother from another mother with a wife from my other life) and it is REALLY hard, especially considering that we KNOW we were absent at times in the past when we 100% should have been there for our wives.
Now, we are in that place where we know so much more but still get trapped into doing and saying things to "make up" for the past. I think we need to try not to do that, but it's really hard to tell the difference between genuine support that any loving H would give to any W, and something that approaches enabling, etc.
GH
P.S. I had to cancel C appt today due to a scheduling conflict. Rescheduled for early next week. Sucks, but had to do it.
