I can kinda relate because my wife has what I think is depression and all I want to do is help. On some occasions I "bow down to her" and do what she wants just to give her a sense of relief. In reality I think she needs to seek professional counseling. As far as your wife goes I think it's okay for you to help her once in awhile....now every time. You(like me) can't always be there to pick up the pieces.
And IMO your W does need to seek help regarding her alcohol. If she drinks evereyday it's a problem. It does seem like she using it as an escape sometimes and that to is a problem.
