I spoke to my H about e-mailing the OW whom he left at the end of August. He explained to me that he was concerned for her welfare (she had tried to commit suicide in September). At first I was upset and very hurt... I had asked him over and over if he was keeping in touch with her and he denied it. He had a separate hotmail address that the two of them used for correspondence. I realize he is truly sorry he kept these secrets and has promised never to talk to her again unless I know about it. He has promised to cancel the private account and I have agreed to let him speak to her if they use our home address. We both sent her an e-mail. My H declared his love for me and told her to e-mail him only at our address. I explained to her that I would allow them to communicate with the understanding I was privy to their conversations. She e-mailed us back and I was happy to know that she wants us to be happy and will not write to us unless we write first. As I told her ... one of the reasons I love my H so much is that he is a caring person. I feel like there is closure now.
