Quote: A less empowered way of putting this question would be, do you often feel as though your W controls your choices by being excessively emotionally fragile and/or volatile, prone to drama...?
Lemme think about that...
I think this was 100% the case in the past and the major reason I was so "passive" in many ways. I think still to this day I have issues with this but I think I am pretty open about that. I do think I am much closer to say, 25% governed by these feelings and 100% aware of that control so I am still working on it.
I struggle with when it becomes healthy concern and "supportive" and when it becomes me subjugating my own needs/wants because I think to do otherwise will "set her off".
In reality, she has done a lot to activly (and I guess in this way, she HAS tried to contribute to our progress) let me know that I CAN be honest with her and she CAN handle it. She actually prefers it (gee, who woulda thunk it) when I am honest and direct even if it hurts.
So, the short answer is that I used to do this all the time and I think it contributed VERY much to our problems...not so much any more.
