OT, we may be cross posting but I wanted to clarify something. I CANNOT accept my W being self absorbed. I will need her to be able to "give" to me as well as take and that is something that I will have to address with her at some point. Actually, it is the MAIN thing I need to change in our R. The sad part is that she feels like SHE has been the one giving all along but she doesn't understand that what she gives is not what I need, just as I understand that what I have given her all these years did not "fill" her tank so-to-speak. We both need to learn to give in the way that works for the other. I think that is possible through open communication, something I know you know I am working on.
