Hi Grasshopper, Just checking in on you and offering my periodic words of encouragement I am profoundly moved on a regular basis with what a wonderful husband you are. The constant introspection you are doing is so healthy, and so helpful to all who witness you and are also working on our own growth. I know my posts are still overly focused on my H's behavior instead of my own. I have more letting go to do, and more personal work and behavioral changes as well. I am making progress, but it is slow... So then I think, with all the tools I have, and such a slow process of change, H's pace (with no outside support that I know of) makes so much sense. I do my best to keep focused on my goals. You are one of my constant inspirations. I am glad you are beginning to get some consistent hugs smiles and other rewards for your generous and thoughtful behavior. I know sometimes it feels like this
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I think she doesn't trust all this

But I see how she really does get you, more and more each day. She is remembering who you are, as you do. And, I appreciate you so much, as I know many others do on this board (the love fest continues ) Thanks for being here and especially for the commitment you have made to yourself and to your marriage. There is no doubt in my mind you will be rewarded for your extraordinary efforts . So why wouldn't we want to just keep being better and better forever? You are on the right path, my friend.

PositivelyListening
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When one door of happiness closes, another one opens; but often we look so long at the closed door that we do not see the one which has been opened for us. - Helen Keller