GH, I really don't know what I would have done if I hadn't found this site or read DR. I probably would have lost my cool and reacted to my emotions and would be divorced by now. Thank GOD for this site and the people here!!
Actually, I give my H alot of credit cause you're right, he is doing this on his own without the benefit of the resources that I have. He could have also thrown in the towel and reacted to his emotions and left me and our kids BUT he didn't. I see he is really trying. It might not be a the pace that I want, but guess what - not everything is about me. This is something that I have learned, before everything revolved around me and my feelings. I have learned that everyone is an individual with their own thoughts and feelings and just because they are not the same as mine doesn't mean they are wrong. What a process this has been. It has given us all so much strength in the face of disaster that none of us knew we even had!! So as much as the A sucks, it has actually been a learning experience for us, one that I'm sure will make us and our marriages much better in the long run.
