GH, I haven't posted much on anyone's threads before, but yours is one that I look forward to reading everyday. Just want to say that I think you're doing great. Making good progress. handeling things very well. I know that everything you do and say to W is always a question in your mind, if what your doing is right. I've been down this road before. 8yrs ago. My H had EA with a coworker. I had my suspicion's. Asked if he was involed with her and denied it. What a slap in the face that was. I thought I was the good W. We had are problems yes, but never in a million years thought this would happen to me. I saw this OW every day. My kids and I would visit daddy for dinner and there she would be, having a brake during that time. She was there just to make sure H didn't try to be close with me. I asked him over and over if he was seeing her and every time said no. I found out one year after he ended it with her.Thier EA lasted 6 months. She was married, with a one year old baby girl. He for some reason keeped all of her letters and cards she gave him. One for his b-day,one for fathers day, and even one on OUR anniversary, and one on my b-day saying she was hoping he would think of her when he was OUT with me.!!!! He gave her one on Mothers Day. I never got a card from him on mothers day. So every year these are the worst days ever. I am a survivor of and EA. I of course went around it the wrong way. Yelling, screaming, crying, asking way, what did I do, how can I change. Every question I could think of about their EA, I wanted to know. He gave me the answers I wanted, but it did not make it any easier. We went through a year of MC, together and alone. I found out that he ended the EA because she was seeing 2 other guys from his work. I even called her when I found out. That was crazy. She tryed to reassure me that my H was in love with me. That I no longer had any thing to worry about. I just let her know that I won that I would get past this and that I hoped she asked for forgivness, and that she never does this to another family. The reason I found this site was becouse after 8yrs of recovery I have run into this W. She happens to work where my son plays hockey. I almost died when I saw her and of course let H know. Many emotions came to the surface. Talking to my H has helped. I don't talk about the EA. but knowing that H is here for me makes all the differents in the world. Well you get the picture. They say time heals all wounds but they never said the scars go away. This is something I live with everyday. But I don't let it control my life. My H has seen the pain, the the struggles of everyday life this has put on me. There are no words to say that express what I went through. Just the feeling deep in my soul. It took a long time for us to be intimate. I learned over the years I can't push my H into sex. It can take days. first we go through the teasing, chasing,touching. But in the end we become intimate. Well enough rambling on. Just keep up the good work and I look forward to the day you tell us about the "Big Day."
Keep up with the touching, the hints, and the teasing. She is responding to you in her own time. Like just the other night. This was good. I look forward to see more progress in your stich. and I see things slowly turning for the better. You are a strong man. I don't have any words of wisdom to say, just that I keep you and everyone are in my daily prayers. and if in anyway I can help I'm here. You have alot of good people here to help you. You all have such great stranght.
